The first question that comes to mind after reading Mr. Jones’s statement in its entirety is, ‘How much violence against children is acceptable in the NAACP’s view?’ Pastor Dollar is accused of slapping (or punching), choking, and slamming his fifteen year old daughter to the floor, then beating her with a shoe. Is this the kind of ‘responsible disciplining’ that NAACP is advocating? Are black parents really being forced to choose between the aforementioned behavior or being ‘apathetic, lax or indifferent’? Of course not, but in making Mr. Dollar the face of the ‘dilemma’, they are either cosigning his behavior or implying that his accusers are being dishonest, which brings to mind another even more disturbing question, which is ‘How much evidence does the NAACP think our children need to present in order for the police to protect them from violence?’
Black children – especially girls – are already more likely to suffer abuse than children from other communities, so if anything we should want the police to be more vigilant in their efforts to protect them not less, but in the NAACP’s view the problem of children who ‘believe they can call the police at any time to stop unwanted discipline‘ complicates matters. Perhaps, that’s true in some cases but in the case of Pastor Dollar, his nineteen year old daughter corroborated the story of her younger sister, the alleged victim. Neither of them were high or drunk. Neither have a history of making false reports. So, how much evidence did they need to provide and why should our children have to meet and overcome a higher burden of proof than children of other communities?
As is the case with most arrests, the accused and the alleged victim tell different stories. Pastor Dollar proclaims his innocence, admitting only to ‘spanking’ his daughter, not choking or slapping her. He says the mark on her neck is not from trauma, but is actually an old ‘ezcema’ scar and the nineteen year old witness also changed her statement when she realized her father was about to be arrested, suggesting that she was trying to protect him. These facts might be enough to prove him innocent, but the cops on the scene can’t make that determination. That’s why we have courts.
Parents no doubt have challenges and of course if we use our imaginations or read history, we can conceive of a dystopian future in which children have turned against parents, sort of
Of course Pastor Dollar deserves his day in court like everyone else, but in the meantime we – especially the men in our community – should not equivocate. There is no context in which it is acceptable for an adult to slap and choke a child. Period. If a child makes that accusation – especially if they have witnesses – the accused should be arrested. To imply that treating our kids in this way is within the realm of ‘responsible disciplining’ is an attack, not only on our race, but also on our humanity.